Listen to God's voice at the foot of the crucifix." ~St. Gaspar del Bufaro~

Sunday, December 1, 2013

Prepare Him Room, Not Rejection

Advent is here again…Another chance to prepare!
On the outside, most Christians prepare their homes for Christmas (the birth of Christ), while being keenly aware that we are also preparing for His promise to come again.

On the inside, we are preparing our hearts, often the most difficult thing to do on an ongoing basis, let alone this time of year.

This Thanksgiving, our whole family had the honor of serving the needy in our community.  Each year, this event serves over 1,000 homeless, elderly shut-ins and less fortunate citizens.  I can't express in words, the heart warming experience this was.  
A few of our American Heritage Girls served the event and were honored to do so!  

As I helped an elderly lady to a table, who was feeling lonely with no family, my heart connected with her rejection.  I felt her pain and it humbled me to the deepest caverns of my soul.

We have all felt rejection at one time in our lives, haven't we?
If you think about it, we see it all around us every day…

How easy is it to reject someone even via social media?  (Facebook, blogging, etc) 

It hurts to be rejected, not only by those we love and care about,  but from those we thought to be friends and acquaintances around us.  I think rejection is one of the most painful things to experience on an emotional level…
Maybe we get ignored,
Maybe we try to be friends with someone, only to be shut down.
Maybe someone doesn't accept our apology;
Maybe we aren't liked;
Maybe someone else gets chosen instead of us;
Maybe we aren't the favorite;
Maybe we are judged.
Maybe we are the rejectors on the other end of some of these...
Maybe we cause our own rejection, and
Maybe we are rejected for no apparent reason at all.
I've been reflecting on this rejection as we move into Advent.
I think rejecting and rejection takes up a lot of room in the dark corners of our souls.

I'm reminded of Mary's rejection as she was shunned by her neighbors and friends when she was discovered to be pregnant out of wedlock.  Even though she was known for her pious,  kind, and gentle nature, it all went down the tubes when she was discovered to be with child...Son of God or not, she was rejected.

How can we begin to overcome the small rejections, let alone the big ones?  Mary bore hers so patiently…If only I had an ounce of her courage!

I know for sure, the answers lie in the past…From the manger to a selfless Cross;
They certainly lie in the present…Through the sacrifice on the Altar;
But they also lie in the skin…Through Us, created in His image and likeness, to love one another as He loved us. The answers lie in the questions we ask ourselves…

How can I open my heart, this Advent?
How can I open my eyes to search for someone who might need a smile?  
How can I open my hands with a cup for a thirsty soul?  
How can I open my ears to hear someone crying for help?
How can I prepare Him Room, Not Rejection?

A novice master once responded when asked about a life lived in Christian authenticity, that "to be a Christian was not to know the answers but to begin to live in the part of the self where the question is born…"

Whew, that's a good thing with all the questions I have going on in my head! 

Ultimately, we learn that when we set ourselves aside, like Mary did, God's light takes over.  Please, dear Mother, help me move over, this Advent and beyond!


  1. Words do not seem adequate to describe the thoughts that I have in my head after reading this post. So true. So blessed to see it and spread it to others. The spiritual and corporal works of mercy flow from this post. Advent blessings to you dear friend!

  2. Beautiful post, Tiffany! I love what you so eloquently said and this is one of your best posts for reflection! I think we can all take some time to reflect on this, especially this time of year :-) That is so wonderful what your family did. We tried to do this for Thanksgiving as well, but, as we had the idea the week before Thanksgiving, our local Rescue Mission was full up with help, Praise God for them, but, we really had our hearts set on it. We will try again soon though. I love that He is working through you again this Advent, sweet friend! Many blessings to your whole family xo

  3. Another thoughtful, beautiful post, Tiffany! Wishing you a grace-filled Advent.
    Annita +JMJ+

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  5. Hi Tiffany, rejection is so wounding and powerfully destructive to our souls, if we let it. The deceiver is waiting to set his trap for the rejected and wounded soul. Oh my, I can feel your reaction to the lonely lady you met. I've no doubt that your sweet presence and kind smile brought her comfort. Your Thanksgiving of serving others brought glory to God. Advent blessings to you, my friend :)


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