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Monday, February 11, 2013

Lent Is Not For Wimps

Our 5 year old daughter recently made this C, for Crucifix craft, found in the Catholic ABC's pre-school curriculum.  Little did we know it would end up sparking a little apologetics conversation with her 6 year old neighbor friend, who is Mormon. I over heard the neighbor girl ask my daughter why she would hang a cross in her room with "Jesus looking like that on it...It's just so sad." "Yes it is sad, replied my daughter,..."But it's also a good thing because the gates of heaven got opened!" ...And on they went playing with their dolls in the next instant.  I smiled to myself at the innocence of their sweet conversation. Ok, ok, I was really (quietly) jumping up and down, desperately wanting to hug and shout to my daughter: "Good answer, good answer!" I did tell her later and gave her that hug:) Wouldn't it be nice if our faith differences, as adults, were this easy to manage? 
All of this got me thinking about our faith and upcoming Lent...The liturgical season where we reflect and meditate on that same Crucifix and the reason He's on it. The Passion of Our Lord, The Way of the Cross...Not events in time that are easy to watch or listen to.  While they are, yes, sad and horrible, AT the same time, they also lead us to the greatest goal and ultimate joy...Heaven itself. God so loved the whole world that He gave us only Son to suffer and die that WE may have Eternal life. (John 3:16) He suffered so that we may learn that our own suffering is not in vain
I like to think of Lent as a time to beef up the spiritual workout. It's a time to remind myself that my soul gets lazy.  Like my body, it needs constant work to stay healthy and strong for the life to come.  That man up there on that Cross is our personal trainer, for goodness sakes.  He invites us to share in His suffering all through our lives but especially this time of year. He's our Savior and He sweat blood and tears for our souls.
Why should we not be uncomfortable?
We shared all of this with our kids over our pre-Lenten family team huddle, adding the kicker...
Lent is not for wimps!
(Neither is Christianity, for that matter)
But when it comes to this particular liturgical season, it's definitely a time in which the 3 pillars of Lent, (Fasting, Praying, Almsgiving) inevitably activates some moaning and groaning around a large household. We hear it from the kids and occasionally a faint whine from an adult or two:)...How hard is this really going to be? 

Yet Lent is also a time when we look forward to changing or improving our ways to get a better handle on our spiritual shape.  Sometimes it's a matter of getting back on track and sometimes it's a matter of starting a new spiritual workout routine all together.  The kids seemed to enjoy this workout analogy as they all love their sports!  We need to spend time strengthening our spiritual lives, just like we do our physical lives.  It doesn't take a Doctor of the Church to discover that it takes spiritual effort to make spiritual gain:)

When it comes to Fasting, the way we encourage sacrifice in our family is to listen to our inner voice that tells us what we don't want to do.  I know for me, when I start finding and making excuses for why I can't give something up, that's probably the thing (or two) that I need to pray about sacrificing.  Just as we know ourselves, we try to teach our children that it's the tough things that make us stronger and lead us closer to Christ. 
Our Prayer life can always use a boost in repetitions:)  We try to continually remind our kids that Jesus is always waiting for them, He wants to have a relationship with Him.  Through the Eucharist and other Sacraments He comes to us but He waits for us in all other areas of our lives as well. We posed a question to them: How would your friend next door feel if you didn't speak with him when he came knocking on the door asking you to play?  That's how Jesus is...He's knocking on our door all of the time.  He wants us to take a little time to talk with Him.  Relationships are work, they are not automatic.  Sometimes it hurts to come down on our knees but the results will lift us up!
Almsgiving is the third pillar of Lent where opportunity awaits. It is through doing, that we make the great tangible discovery that it truly is better to give than to receive.  The difficult part of this pillar comes in actually carrying out the act of giving.  Almsgiving becomes the "Just Do It" part of our Lenten spiritual workout. 

Of course none of this is to say that we actually have control over the path that God leads us.  As parents, it simply helps us teach our children (and remind ourselves) that sometimes we need to be uncomfortable in our faith.  It takes work to stay on the right track and keep our relationship going with the Lord.  Things that are good for us and produce the best results do not always come easy. Nothing is automatic.
Lent Is Not For Wimps!
Here's wishing you an uncomfortably blessed Lent:)

In light of the recent news of our Holy Father, I can't help but admire his heroic humility as we enter this historic 2013 Lenten season.  If only I could die to myself even a smidge of what he has, I'd be happy...
"I didn't go to religion to make me happy.  I knew a bottle of Port would do that. If you want a religion to make you feel really comfortable, I certainly don't recommend Christianity." C.S. Lewis



10 comments:

  1. Yea for your daughter!! I would have been doing a bit a fist pump too :) Most adults couldn't answer that! Wishing you an Uncomfortably wonderful Lent too.

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    1. Thanks, Jen! Your description is much better...FIst pumping is more like how I felt:) God bless your Lent!

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  2. Love the C.S. Lewis quote! Actually, just love this post. It's funny how much my kids help me in my own faith journey. With each change of season, I can't help but fall in love again and again with Catholicism, and am so thankful God brought me "home" as an adult. And it is so true about the uncomfortableness of our faith. Really, in anything, if I don't want to do something, that usually means I need to do that. I wish you and your family a productive Lent!

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    1. I'm with you, Nicole...I believe I'd be VERY poor in spirit without my children! We are truly blessed by our faith and it's so nice to share it with others. God bless you and your family this Lent!

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  3. A wonderful post. What a sweet reply your daughter gave to her friend... very wise for such a young girl... and a proud moment for Mama! Prayers for our beloved Holy Father. +JMJ+

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    1. Thanks for the visit, Annita:) Wishing you and your family a very blessed Lent!

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  4. What a smart little cookie!! I love Lent for all of the reasons you mentioned. I actually may even enjoy it a bit more than Christmas. Don't you just LOVE those candid conversations that come out of nowhere? We have some of the *best* chats over meals and I am always amazed at what my littlest ones have to say! Your daughter is just so precious and looks so cute! I cannot believe it has been two years since I discovered your amazing blog, sweet friend!

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    1. Thanks for stopping over, Ann-Marie! I'm with you, I definitely get more (spiritually) out of Lent than Advent. It's so nice not to have the commercial distractions! YES, the conversations with kids are truly priceless, especially as they are all so unique and different:) Have a very blessed and holy Lent, my friend!

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  5. oh you must have been bursting with joy when your daughter gave the catechism lesson to her friend!! ;) LOVELOVE the Jesus as personal trainer image. Oh yes He is. thanks for that inspiration. and for wishing us all an UNcomfortable Lent. That's what we need, and deep down, it's what we truly want. I pray your Lent is blessed and uncomfortable too, friend.

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    1. Thanks, Gardenia! So far things have been quite uncomfortable so doing a lot of offering it up:)

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