Gimping By Grace Through the Gauntlet

 

St. Mary's Parish Shrine~ One of my favorite places on earth.

 

  Greetings of Easter peace to anyone who might pass this way!

It's been a long and arduous Lenten trek over in my corner of the world so I thought I'd share some reflections.  I also want to thank any of you kind souls who have been praying for my marriage and family.  We have felt the impact and know they have helped in far more ways than we can imagine!

 

As I move forward from here in the season of Easter, I truly believe that we are not meant to keep hardships to ourselves.  As I read and think about the apostles after the shock and awe of Calvary, I see that they first wanted to hide.  It reminds me that we can all relate to this as we inevitably go through our own difficult things in life.  Sometimes we feel like curling up in a ball, hoping all of our sorrow will go away... but it never works like that.  God calls us to come out.  Just like Christ drew out his disciples from their darkness to tell people what happened, He also calls us to share how He works in our own lives and give reason for hope.  I would like to do that...Share hope.  I hope in doing so, it might help someone else find light in their struggle and know we are never alone.

 The Pacific Ocean~ My favorite places to find peace

 

Before arriving at "hope", it seems we have to think about what choices we have to live out our free will in difficult circumstances.  Suddenly, we find there aren't a whole lot of choices in times of crisis.

I recently read this anonymous quote: "When something bad happens you have 3 choices:

One, you can let it define you.

Two, you can let it destroy you.

Three, you can let it strengthen you."

 

Ultimately as Christians, we know that we are called to pick up our crosses and follow Him.  For in this real person of Jesus, we find exactly what we need to make that third choice of allowing our trials to strengthen us. 

The only problem is actually doing it!

Not an easy thing, I know.

 

When we are actually call to live what we believe, we look at that bloody face on the Cross with a new lens...

This Holy Week, I found myself in this very position.  There I was, gimping by His grace...

That free gift

of Himself

was all I had to hold on to...

Sacrificial love saves us from ourselves,

it saves us from destruction,

giving strength through the pain,

flowing freely from His wounds.

 

Our Parish Altar~ The comfort of home

 

There He was, there He is, being the example for all to see, believers or not. 

He was not a victim but a hero.

Which one will we be?

He lives the Resurrection so that we might believe, we might hope, we might have light outside ourselves, we might (someday) be with Him forever.

 

And then comes the inevitable question... 

How can we possibly follow this example of absolute love and forgiveness when betrayal and other human sufferings hurt so much?

It seems all fine and dandy for Jesus because He was God, the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end, and God is supposed to do that. 

The real question, is what does this look like in real life for real humans? 

Easter Vigil at St. Mary's~ Hope is alive

 

I've had plenty of time to ponder these real questions (and more) as they have wracked my brain and heart these last 5 months...

When my world came crashing down.

 Never would I have believed this would happen to us.

How does one actually survive betrayal in a marriage, anyway?

How should I respond to my spouse who has been dishonest?

What on earth am I supposed to do when my spouse isn't sure he wants to stay in our marriage after 16 years and 5 children?

How can I gimp through the gauntlet?

The honest answer is that there is no easy answer.

The answer is hard but it's worth seeking.

It's not about me but it's about the surrender of me.

When there are very few choices, the real path to survival is an honest face plant at the foot of the Cross, literally and figuratively.

The will of God is the only answer. 

 

When we do this in real life, let Jesus take the helm, real God happens.  

Submersing myself in the word of God every day, gave me  exact answers I needed for that very moment. 

Gimping by grace began,

Gimping through the gauntlet continues...

My lifelines and favorite prayer resources

 

My favorite resources, coupled with the Sacraments of Reconciliation and Eucharist gave me strength, along with the prayers and a lifeline of beautiful friends and family who truly kept me (and my family) afloat. 

In real life, the body of Christ embraced me in their loving arms.

In real life, the crosshairs of mercy stared back at me...

Miracles happened.

Mercy does that...It leads to miracles.

The Blessed Sacrament~ Heaven on Earth

 

As I write this, our marriage is being reconciled.  I do believe it's a miracle and I'm rejoicing in the midst of our gimping, even though I'm terrible at gimping.

  It's not easy to gimp, even by His grace.

 Prayers are still needed because I'm having a hard time.

I know my husband is having a hard time, too.

It's tremendously painful for both of us to pick up the pieces and move in a new direction.

Real life isn't so easy but there is plenty of hope to hold on to, this I know.

In the meantime, I've learned a few good things to share:)

Me learning a new sport~ A new passion!

It's good to stare at mercy through the crosshairs...It's a mirror to your soul. 

It's good to take a hard look at what you believe in because then you have to live what you really believe. "Sweet" Divine Mercy had new meaning this year:)

Krispy Treat~ 2015Our Divine Mercy Rice

 

It's good to have family and friends who've got your back when you're down.  They are the real hands of God, whether they know it or not.  We should never hesitate to reach out.

 

It's good to give to others in the midst of your own pain so that you discover it's balm for your wounds.

American Heritage Girls

Holy Week Service Project

Food Bags for the Homeless

It's good to turn to the great Mother of God who knows our suffering and is the best company at the foot of the Cross.  She is the sun that shines for her Son.

St. Mary's Parish Fatima Shrine~ Early morning sunrise

 

It's good to give thanks for the beauty in the natural world that is heightened in time of trial to remind us that we are part of something bigger than ourselves.

The beautiful tree on my parent's deck!

 

It's good to have faith that God has it all under control because His grace is what keeps us gimping up, up, up, the mountain, instead of giving up. 

  

Arduous hike at Pinnacles National Park~Perfect kick-off to Holy Week! (Photo Credit to my friend, Kim)

 

Through all of this, I also pray that you might receive the grace you need to gimp through your own gauntlet, knowing that God's plan is always better than our own!  

Through my gimping, I trust that He knows what He's doing. 

Thank you for continued love and prayers.

   

 Family Photo~Easter Vigil~2015
 {Broken but not destroyed}
 

"Let us rid ourselves of every burden and sin that clings to us and persevere in running the race that lies before us while keeping our eyes fixed on Jesus, the leader and perfecter of faith.  For the sake of the joy that lay before him he endured the cross, despising its shame, and has taken his seat at the right of the throne of God.  Consider how he endured such opposition from sinners, in order that you may not grow weary and lose heart.  In your struggle against sin you have not yet resisted to the point of losing blood." ~Hebrews 12:1b-4